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In recent vacation I went to my grandmother house and spent good time there. This is my all-time favourite place. One day grandmother ask me a question In search of mewhat are you doing these days? And I explained respectfully what I am doing in my profession, but she was not satisfied by this answer. She again clarified the question, profession is fine but what else. I was blank because I don’t have any explicit answer. Because I am not doing anything other than my profession. She said this is okay everyone is doing their profession but how do you define your life. You are here for living life, live your life now and don’t put down this for another day.

This conversation strike me a lot and I have started thinking on this. Normally we are living just for doing our professional work, we are not working for live life. Basically we are trapped in our professional competition and we don’t have time to live our life in definitive way. Every time we are ready to give an excuse our work is on high priority but we forget to point out that our life is also very important. Ultimately we are here to live life.

When I was in school I was on the principle’s list, an honorary roll awarded only to top students and in every academic year I was there. In that time I was also occupied with my school stuff and I am able to manage and get time for me. I do what I liked including my hobbies, hanging out with friends, painting, singing, participation in school drama, social activity, teenage love, school science exhibition, sports, and so many things.

Hanging out  with friendsPaintingSingingSchool teenage loveScience exibitionSchool dramaSocial activity

After jumping into professional competition I forgot everything. I used to working as an engineer and after working a normal 40 hour work in a week and feeling exhausted by the weekend. I was completely drained and I could barely find enough energy for doing anything for me. On every Saturdays I just veg out in front of the TV. I felt like a complete vegetable. I spends my weekends generally for resting and preparing mind-set for next Monday to Friday job.

I did that for several years, sitting idle like a vegetable on the couch wondering to myself, What was I supposed to be doing? Why wasn’t I happy? Why did I feel that I had to pretend when I was at work? And why was everyone else pretending?”. We have only five days working and rest two days we utilized as a getting out from office tiredness. It’s not our problem we taught like that and force to jump into this competition and forgot real meaning of life.

I feel I’m wasting my time doing something that doesn’t even make me happy. It’s like I’m living a lie. In fact there was a part of me that realized that there was more to life than working. There was a real part of me that felt my life had meaning and I was here to do something special.

But you know what’s even harder? Pretending to be something you’re not. Pretending to be happy when you’re not. Pretending to be someone that you’re not. That takes so much more energy and effort

live lifeIf we want to discover our true meaning of life, then we must first empty our mind of all the false meaning that we have been taught. Now I don’t want to waste my precious life I want to give a meaning of my life. I have started creating the list what I want from my life. I included all my hobbies, my social responsibility, family and the things that make me happy.

I gradually included this things in my lifestyle. Now every day I have something special for me, and my everyday is countable in my life. I started playing tennis, play with colours for paintings, singing for giving inner peace, creating new friends, meet new people, visit new places etc. It’s all gives me an inner satisfaction and true happiness. Now I am happy because my inner soul is happy. I live my life to maintain my own happiness while trying my best to not cause unhappiness to anyone else. If you want to be happy you need to understand that you can be happy and that you should be happy. Happiness is hard to define but most of the people are know whether they are happy or not.

Live and design your life how you want because you are the one who decide how you want to live your life. Listening is okay, but doing what everyone wants is simply bad for you. Execute the good feedback and follow your own vision.


My mom always say this to me

A good place to start is to write down a list of your biggest talents, now give a try any of these and enjoy the most. Take these talents and give something of it to someone. For example, if your talent is social cause, volunteer to help someone in social activity. Or if it is to painting, paint a picture for someone and give it away as a gift. Or if you are an energetic individual, bring some energy into someone’s life.

Here I have a list of the point that make our living life meaningful and provide an inner happiness:
  • Understand what it is that will make you happy. Make a plan for attaining goals that you believe will make you happy. Spend a few minutes each day thinking about the things that make you happy. These few minutes will give you the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life and will lead you to continued happiness
  • Surrounded yourself with happy people and let go of negative friendships. When something goes wrong try to figure out a solution instead of wallowing in self pity and stop worrying so much. We all are love to criticize everything it create a negative energy so criticize less, appreciate more.
  • Create you list of thing that you want to do in your life and expend your boundary limit and always try something new. It will give you a pleasure of happiness and new experience.
  • Show love and kindness to all the people around you. Respect everyone they may not react in a kind way immediately, but they will notice and appreciate your kindness.
  • Finally, it is important to understand that we all deserve happiness so define a new meaning of our life.
    In our today society there is a common mind-set of “If I can just have, be or achieve this or that, then I would be fulfilled and happy”.

This mind-set flawed because it is a mind-set of finding fulfilment, happiness and purpose outside of yourself. It tells you that you first need to achieve, do or have something in the future before you can be happy.

Thanks for reading this narrated piece of my experience.